Have you noticed how many couples today write their own wedding vows?
When we undertake something as serious in life as as getting married, becoming an elected pubic official, serving as a dedicated professional, and taking the stand to testify in a courtroom, we are required to make a solemn vow.
Taking a vow is our way of confirming our commitment to ourselves and others that we will do our very best in what many consider to be a very important and challenging task.
When you make a commitment to become a more mindful person, to learn to live more in the moment, and to cherish the beauty of now, your first step should be to write your own vows to seal your commitment.
If you tell yourself this is a silly exercise, ask yourself if your reluctance is really because deep down inside you are not really ready to commit to learning to be more mindful?
Challenging your own thoughts is one of the most important steps to becoming more mindful person. Right now is a great time to start by asking yourself how committed you are to becoming a more mindful person?
If the truth is you are not willing to write your own vows as a commitment, then maybe you need to do some more reading and studying before you decide to give mindfulness a fair try.
Yes, learning mindfulness is a wonderful way to improve your love life, strengthen relationships, super charge your career, improve your financial management, but the bottom line is — you are the one making the effort, putting in the time and energy — so you need to be focused and understand the benefits of mindful living are for you, not someone else.
The first person you need to make a serious commitment to is yourself.
Are you willing to vow to yourself and one other person:
- That you will take the five minutes each day to complete your mindful journal?
- To promise you will faithfully complete mindfulness exercises to help you learn and develop the basic skills of mindful living?
- To read your mindful journal at the end of every week?
- To adhere to the three question process of mindful journaling?
- To determine a reward to give yourself at the end of each week after you have kept your vows to mindful living?
- To accept that learning to be mindful is a process that usually takes a year or more to complete?
- To write your vows on page one of your journal and post a copy in at least one private place you will see during the day?
- To give a copy of your written vows to a close and trusted friend, and tell them what you are committing to do?
Important Note: If the process of how to keep a mindful journal is not already clear to you, please read our previous article titled, The Mindful Journal.
Keeping a mindful journal requires more than just commitment, it also requires inspiration, so you need to find yourself a daily source of inspiration.
There are many good sources for inspiration. I have always enjoyed having a couple of books handy which give me a small one or two page inspirational message for each day of the year. I keep them handy beside my journal and I read them daily. I find the messages never fail to stir my imagination and give me an idea on where I want to focus my mindfulness for my journal entry.
I know some people who keep books of famous quotes to inspire them. The book series, Chicken Soup for the Soul, have a number of very popular inspirational books. I had a friend who found inspiration for mindfulness everyday in the funny comics of his daily newspaper.
We are all different, so I hesitate to make any recommendations, but I will list a few such books which work well for me:
- A Year of Living Consciously by Gay Hendricks
- Courage to Change: One Day at a Time in Al-Anon II
- A Cup of Comfort series by Colleen Sell
- The Best of Bits & Pieces published by Economics Press
- Change your Thoughts — Change your Life by Dr.Wayne W. Dyer
As always, I encourage my students to visit a used book store, where you should have no problem finding great inspirational material for next to nothing.
If you are planing to start your own mindful journal, consider this your first exercise.
Read more about mindfulness in our blog post, Life in the Moment.
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