Ever take a job thinking what a great boss you will be working for, only to realize he is actually a tyrant and a bully?
Did you befriend someone who seems easygoing and friendly, to later discover they are a continual negative drain on your soul by always complaining about life and putting everyone else down?
There is no sure way to filter through all the weird and thoughtless people in this world. No pop-psychology book you can read or no twenty-five question questionnaire in this month’s Chatelaine magazine which will point out who they are.
In life we take risks, and every time we open ourselves to another person we are taking a chance. Simply put, life and relationships do not come with guarantees, but here is a little trick I have found pretty reliable.
Arrange without the other person knowing it, for them to encounter a baby kitten or a puppy. I believe that a person’s natural self emerges when they encounter a helpless little critter who is asking for nothing but love.
Of course, there are exceptions to this rule. Someone who became terrified by pets when they were a child may not be a fair respondent, but for the most part, I find this a reliable measure of a person’s true nature.
I have seen the toughest, gruffest boss melt when given a kitten to hold and observed an old codger who would spit in your face rather than tell you what time it is, sit for hours in the park to feed the pigeons.
On the other hand, I have observed many a smooth talker who reveals they have no time nor compassion for a puppy. I have watched people who assure me they love helping others, and how they are a real people person, brush aside a loving puppy with their foot when it gets too close.
I have watched a woman given a kitten quickly pass it on in fear it might have an accident. I have watched people who like to scare kittens and laugh when they run away, men who will taunt a puppy to establishing themselves as dominant.
Now I admit I have met and worked with some difficult people who love baby animals. People I have had to struggle with to get along or work together with. By knowing the person deep inside is actually a softy for animals has allowed me to be more patient, more understanding in my relationship with them.
In almost all cases, I was able to finally break through their tough exterior to find the real person hiding inside.
As for the others, those who show no love, no respect, nor patience with helpless animals?
Simply put, I don’t like them and I sure don’t trust them. Not in marriage, business, church, and I don’t care what office they hold or uniform they wear, something tells me to stay clear.
Is this a scientific way to understand the inner emotions of another person? No. However, it is a system which works well for me and perhaps it may help you find your perfect mate.
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